Triggers and how I feel
Once you teach them about emotion regulation skills. Hopefully they will learn that It is okay to feel the way we feel when we go through a difficult situation or event. Learning to observe and regulate is key. If you need worksheets and ideas for emotion regulation, please see the link below.
https://ideasforcounseling.com/emotion-awareness/
https://ideasforcounseling.com/emotion-regulation-through-self-control/
- Triggers: Trigger is the external and internal experience that causes a reaction. The more a person can figure out what makes them feel a certain way, they can be more aware of it and have a plan on how to handle it better.
- What feelings am I creating: Then the next part is to see if those triggers remind or add feelings related to a strong belief system related to past experiences. This section can also help explore the belief system if there are themes that are arising more often.

Locus of Control
The concept of locus of control created by Julian Rotter can really help the children focus on taking responsibility for their actions, feelings, and thoughts. This can help them focus on hope, change, being determined, and help them be persistent regardless of any situation they are in.
- Let go of things you cannot control: This can really help them put their energy into positive actions rather than giving their energy to things that are out of their control. This can help them let go of things that other people do and events that occur.
- Change things you can control: This can not only help the kids focus on (positive words, positive actions, and positive thoughts) but it can also help them be hopeful that their actions might also affect things they cannot control (for example their destiny, future, other people, or other external circumstances)
Websites
I end up coming to this one again and again. It has list of things you can control and things you cannot control.
https://wendyhopkins.co.uk/guest-blog-control-the-controllables-a-mantra-for-divorce/
